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Productivity Guilt Versus Productivity

Hey all ,
 When life gives you lemons , you're supposed to make lemonade. When you're unemployed, you're supposed to make most of the time . When you're unmarried you enjoy the best phase of your life. If you are no longer doing it , the guilt seeps in. 
It’s the constant nagging feeling that you should be doing more. If you’re not doing everything, then you’re feel like lazy slacker who will never reach goals. Things are worse if you are somebody sliding in between both zones. 

Employed v/s unemployed thought process
As I sit unemployed ,I realised with my first hand experience that employed and unemployed people think so differently. They plan so differently. Their approach towards life is so different. So ,  I already know the percentage of people who'd agree or disagree. 

As unemployed person , I know you have what others don't have time and opportunity. I also understand that I don't have what they have , support , stability and finances. The guard to protect my time , to look for right opportunity with a free mind is taxing. The guilty pleasure to chose. 

With time in hand , I'd want to work on things , talk about things that I would never do if at all I was employed. 

The Expensive Guilt :
Guilt does motivate, but it does so at high costs and with a lot of side-effects. You may not choose how you feel, but you can’t possibly adjust it if you think that non-stop guilt about not doing enough is somehow an ideal state. Aim to be slow and patient instead seems like a distant dream.
For people like me who are still struggling to come out of this zone. There is some advice down there for free... If you're desi enough , pick the free stuff.

1) Advice is a direction, not a destination.
Moving from where you are now, in the direction it points, will probably produce benefits. But taking everything to its logical extreme or conclusion often doesn't actually seem very good. 

2) Perfection isn’t practical
One class of people believes that it is practical the other class is always trying to prove a point that it is not. More or less we're all trying or not trying to be perfect but why do we have to have the word perfect in the reference at all. 
The perfect job the perfect car the perfect arrangement the perfect spouse what is perfect it's so subjective . I think perfection is like weather variable and very very uncertain.

3) We are humans and we are flawed
Yes, it would be nice if we were perfect beings with infinite discipline, time, freedom, resources and intelligence. But we’re not. We’re always starting as flawed people, trying to make things a little better for ourselves.

Lets discuss moves...
Productivity is Good, Productivity Guilt is Bad
The right move to make is always one that pushes you a little, but takes where you are as a starting point. That also includes your psychological strengths and weaknesses.



So far so much.

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